The Pleasure of Corresponding with a Friend

I love letters! Letters have in them a way of communication that transcends many other forms of communication. My friends know that I would rather write a letter, e-mail, or text more than I like talking on the phone. There is something special about the pleasure of corresponding with a friend.

Corresponding with a FriendIn early high school it was spiral notebooks our friends passed between each other writing notes to each other in class. In junior high it was the primary means getting to know the girl who would become my best friend. Writing was my connection to pen pals and places in the United States that I never would have visited or known  had that person not lived there. I had boxes of love letters, notes from friends for many years until I lost them in our apartment fire.  I still treasure cards and notes given to me and hoard them in boxes in my garage. My father and I write to each other regularly from where he is living and it is creating a special bond between us. It is a special art and love in my life.

Read these words written in a love letter by Samuel Johnson to a woman he loved. This part of the letter is about writing letters.

In a man’s letters, you know, madam, his soul lies naked. His letters are only the mirror of his heart. Whatever passes within him is there shown undisguised in its natural progress; nothing is invented, nothing distorted; you see systems in their elements, you discover actions in their motives… This is the pleasure of corresponding with a friend, where doubt and distrust have no place, and everything is said as it is thought. These are the letters by which souls are united, and by which minds naturally in unison move each other as they are moved themselves… I have indeed concealed nothing from you, nor do I ever expect to repent to having thus opened my heart.*

To explain that in my own words, it would just not compare with how it was said by Samuel Johnson. If real life was like it is in a letter, then life would be exactly as it should be, “…nothing invented, nothing distorted…where doubt and distrust have no place, and everything is said as it is thought…”

You have probably always heard of God’s Word being a love letter to us. Withstanding the ages of time and persecution, and be in a book form that I can personally hold and know without a doubt that it is the eternal Word of God, is just a miracle. God promised to preserve His Word throughout generations so that we could all have an opportunity to have the pleasure of reading His correspondence to us as often as we wanted. We should be taking advantage of the freedom we have to have God’s own Word and go to it as often as the Spirit prompts us to read it.

The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: but the word of our God shall stand for ever. Isaiah 40:8

Often when I am going through the habit of regular Bible reading I forget to approach it with the mindset of finding out what God’s letter is going to say to me. The Bible’s valuable content is not read as tenderly as I would handle a handwritten letter from a close friend.

What makes the Bible a unique correspondence? The Bible is THE Living Word penned by men of God directly from the Lord Himself (I Peter 1:21).

The Living Word has so much more meaning than an old letter from a friend. An old letter can only bring back the memories of the past, stirring up feelings in the present. In contrast, the Living Word can speak to you and share love to you about today and stirs up hope for the future. The treasure is that the Living Word is true and pure. We may not always understand it but we should be able to grasp the intent and heart of the God of the Bible.

Thy word is very pure: therefore thy servant loveth it. Psalm 119:140

God unites the soul to His will as we read the Word.  His letters are a mirror to our soul revealing the sinful heart and directing it to holy living. Reading it as devotedly as a love letter will keep our hearts close to Him.

I want to encourage you to love your Bible, treasure it again and renew your love toward reading it so that you may be able to receive the blessings of its message to your life for today and your future. We all desperately need the pleasure of corresponding with the greatest Friend we will ever have.

*From The World’s Greatest Love Letters Compiled by: Michael Kelahan, 2011


Dear Children: Love Letters From Mama Vol. 4

Love Letters Vol 4


Apologies are a part of life. Never get so high in life that you stop apologizing for mistakes and asking for forgiveness when you wrong or offend others.

I hurt someone, an acquaintance this week, and had to ask for forgiveness when I realized I had caused hurt, pain, and stress to this lady. Thankfully she has forgiven me, although I had never meant to hurt her.

It is hard sometimes to approach people or to lower ourselves. Pride is usually the root cause for fighting among people. It takes humility, lowering yourself, to do it in the right spirit and attitude. The Bible says God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.

An apology (with the much added “will you forgive me?” included) can mend a broken relationship and give hope to the future.

I love you all!



Some days I remind myself to serve you with a happy heart.

Parenthood and marriage both require more service than any other thing in the life of a dedicated mother and wife. It can be hard to maintain a servant spirit when moments of the days and weeks try every ounce of your patience. Sometimes I am also selfish, which causes me to not always serve you with loving and right actions.

When I comb your hair after you’ve taken a bath I hope someday when I am old you will help me and comb my hair after my bath. Some day I may be the one needing my face washed and my clothes picked out. Papa and I may need to live with you and have you give us medicine and drive us all over town.

We don’t know our future together with the way our country is going. This may be the good old days and the best memories of your life. I hope I can serve and help you like Christ has done for us all.

I hope if persecution arises and we are forced to live and work in worldly places that you will serve like Joseph and Daniel. That as the world gets darker, Christ’s servitude in us will shine through us illuminating all who need to see.

I love you and pray you will be faithful servants of God today and every day of your life!


Dear Children,

I wish I could heal all of your hurts and remedy all of your misunderstandings. Fixing things seems to become a way of life for moms but sometimes there are matters of the heart that are impossible for me to fix… but God can fix hurts I cannot. He can always help you through His Word with any problem that you may have.

Love, Mama

Dear Children,

Do you remember us praying for rain together? You all acted as if I was weird for praying with you that rain would come. We could see large bluish purple clouds filled with rain that was not falling on our town or neighborhood.

As I went to bed I looked out to see rain falling beneath the orange street light. I am so thankful God heard our prayers. It is a good full rain that should, Lord willing, help our land not be so dusty.

It’s amazing that God heard us, a little mother with little children, and answered our prayers! He’s wonderful!

Love, Mama

You’re welcome to read more from the Dear Children Series, letters that I’ve written to my children in:

Love Letters From Mama Volume 1

Love Letters From Mama Volume 2

Love Letters From Mama Volume 3

Dear Children: Love Letters From Mama Vol. 2

Love Letters Vol 2

This is a series of letters that I have written to my children in a journal. Most of the letters are written to teach them in the future.  I hope you enjoy reading them!


Life is hard sometimes and we cannot understand why other people do what they do. Sometimes it’s a hurtful thing someone says to you, or someone not making what you’re interested in doing, a priority to them. And sadly there will be times when people are not as kind or godly as they seem to be.

What you CAN do is not focus so much on finding out why they did this or that or did not do it, but pray for them. Ask God to help them, or better yet, ask God if there is something you can do to help them.

Others sometimes get so absorbed in the things in their life that they don’t realize what they are doing to you. It doesn’t make it right or fair, but we have to ask God to help us rise above the hurt and be a blessing if we can. Relationships at times must change because of violations of friendship or boundaries but it does not mean we have to hate people or count them as useless. God will help you during these times.

Love,                                                                                                                               Mama


“Why do you like the name Mama?” you might ask. I like Mama much better than Mommy, because it can be used until I die. The name Mommy to me sounds like a name a baby would call their mother. My aim is to help you all grow up into mature adults, not remain a baby in your thinking or the things you do,or even the way you come to me throughout your life. You are all special to me and my hope is that you will have a name to call me that fits who you will become, not just who you are now. I hope that makes sense.

Love,                                                                                                                               Mama

Dear Children~

Each day God is my teacher and He teaches me something.

Mothers are never failures if they stop working a job to come home and focus on their family. And education does not have to be gained in a classroom setting. Where women are, they, if the desire lives in their hearts, will succeed.

Working at learning balance, adjusting to the events of the day, knowing what to say at the right time to a specific person or need, finding a way to try to get housework done, and love enough to fill everyone’s basic needs is just a handful of the responsibilities.

God has given me a heart for mothering you and I pray He will allow me to be a part of your lives until I can see you all succeed.


To read The Ministry Mama’s other letters to her children, click here.