How to Tell When God is Moving You to a New Ministry

Is God is moving you to a new ministry?

God works and moves in mysterious ways in our lives, we do not always know the reasons why He does things for one ministry family one way and allows another situation for another family to be able to reveal to them the next place of service He wants for their lives. Ministry families will either go through an experience that will positively show them that it is time for them to go to a new ministry, or He will show them through negative experiences, or a combination of both.

God is Moving You

My advice to you is for you to be faithful to reading the Bible, praying, and in good communication with your pastor as much as possible, and seeking good and sincere Biblical counsel from outside sources if necessary.

This list is not for the Jonah looking for an escape from their ministry because they have become discontent or are looking for an excuse to get away from the place God called them. This list is for people to be able to be able to evaluate the situations and circumstances going on in their hearts and lives and be able to confirm those possible leads to be able to follow the Lord in the path He would have them to go.

“Shew me thy ways, O Lord; teach me thy paths.  Lead me in thy truth, and teach me: for thou art the God of my salvation; on thee do I wait all the day.” Psalm 25:4,5

Positive Ways to Know

  1. God begins to point things out to you in your Bible reading, prayer life, and through the teaching and preaching of the Word. When things begin to coincide and everything seems to flow together into one idea pointing you in a specific direction.
  2. A burden in your heart grows toward something specific, such as, youth work, pastoring (for men), leading a new Sunday School class, etc..
  3. The circumstances of your life keep bringing you in contact with the specific people, places, or things that God is directing you toward.
  4. Your pastor or other spiritual leader will speak to you about seeing that God is impressing on their hearts that it is time for you to begin a new ministry or moving in a new direction.
  5. Other people may recognize God moving and changing your life. They may see maturity, experience, and spiritual growth in your life and may begin to ask you or encourage you to think about the future.

If you have a situation like this where you are being spiritually fed and taken care of when you mention your heart’s burden of making a change in your life, then you need to make sure to thank God. Good healthy spiritual mentorship and leadership is often hard to find and is a treasure to be sure!

Negative Ways to Know

  1. Struggles begin happening between you and your pastor and/or other church leadership.  This is more of a personality type of difference than an inability for you to be able to submit to the authority of their leadership.
  2. You come to the place in your ministry where you see more problems than you will ever be able to fix because of your position not being able to have the freedom to discuss or take care of the changes.
  3. You are told that it is time for you to leave from your pastor and/or church leadership.
  4. Problems and situations become difficult and uncomfortable, you may not be able to pinpoint it but something lingers in your spirit that gives you a distinct feeling of change that might be coming in the future.
  5. Doctrinal differences come to light that push you in the direction of making a decision to change the direction of your life and ministry.
  6. You see a change of culture and practice in the church and its leadership. You can see standards, preferences, and convictions begin to differ from the direction that you believe the Lord would have your family and ministry to be.

Perhaps you are having negative experiences in your ministry and you just are not sure what to do. Wait. Pray. Allow God to show you in His timing when the right way to be able to make the choice to leave will be. If God lead you to the place where He brought you and you know that without a doubt, then He can and will lead you to the next place of service.

~A Special Note to Ministry Mamas~

If you see your husband trying to know what the will of the Lord is in your lives, please be wise. I suggest that while you may talk to each other about these things that you do not dominate your life with talking of them constantly (especially if they’re bad). Allow God and the Holy Spirit to lead him, do not threaten him or give ultimatums, do not build up lofty dreams and ideas that would cause him to make a wrong choice hastily . He is the one that is accountable to God for your family. There may be things in your lives and in the church where you serve that God has to work out first before the time is right for you to know that it is fully time for you to move to a new ministry. Keep yourself in prayer and quietly watch the Lord work on your behalf, many times we as women can discern things before they are able to happen. Rest in the Lord during these times and see what good that the Lord will do for you!

Encouraging Your Husband When He Feels Like a Ministry Failure

You, as a ministry wife, have an ability to be able to get in behind the scenes and see the real man your husband is and hear his heart in his lowest of times. All of them face times in which they feel like they are a ministry failure.

You and God can make a difference in helping your husband see he is NOT a failure just because times are hard or there is opposition. This is a list that I found that I had written for my husband when he was disheartened over a year ago and thought it might be something worth sharing. When your husband feels like a failure then please encourage him in a special way – share this blog post, or write your own list, or do some of the other things the other ladies suggested below.

Encouraging Your Husband - TMM

This is what I wrote:

5 Reasons Why You Are Not a Ministry Failure

1. Your calling is fulfilled by obedience, not numbers.

2. So much of ministry is not about being busy, but loving God’s people. You have a unique ability to love people and make them feel cared for.

3. Your lows give you humility and a launching pad for future goals – they do not define you, your ministries, or your God.

4. God is not finished with you yet. God won’t be done with you and your duty to follow Him (your ministries) until you see His face.

5. God’s Word accomplishes His purposes – Sown into the hearts of people through the songs the choir sings, your preaching or teaching, or the children’s ministries you have worked in. Make it your responsibility to keep sowing, not weight yourself down with making it grow. God gives the increase.

Encourage yourself in the Lord.

“The Lord shall increase you more and more, you and your children. Ye are blessed of the Lord which made heaven and earth.” Psalm 115:14,15

Love,

Your Girl


 

To expand this thought this question was asked on the Ministry Mamas Facebook page:

If your husband were discouraged today and felt like a failure and you were going to give him a reason why he was NOT a failure, what would that reason be?

This is what some of you had to say:

“He’s doing his best to faithfully follow the path that God has placed before him with the knowledge and experience that God has given him so far, and that’s the best thing that he can do.

He has me who is head over heels in love with him as a person not a title, and four healthy happy adjusted children that adore him! …followed by some spontaneous planned affection.”

When you truly live for God, no one is a failure. Yes we miss the mark but we are never failures in Christ.

God alone is the author & finisher of our faith. He sees the beginning, the ending, and everything in between. We have to focus on the Master of all our circumstances, whether it’s in good times or bad. He works all things together for our good – even when it doesn’t feel like it. We’ve been down this road several times and it’s not ever easy, but in the end…always good.

I do believe this is a tool the devil uses to get to our men serving in the ministry. I have had to deal with this a few times in our marriage and these are some things I did to encourage my man: Pray, listen when he wants to talk, be silent when words will only sound like nagging, be there (women are not the only ones who need held sometimes), love him, tell him you love him, show him you love him, write little notes and leave them in places only he will find (underwear/sock drawer, suit coat pocket, wallet, etc.). Knowing you are there at his side through anything will help him get through anything. If he doesn’t ‘thank you’ or acknowledge your acts of encouragement, keep it up he will in time. God might be using this time to not only make him stronger, but you both stronger in faith and your marriage and love for each other.

I always think about when David was in such despair after his wife, children and fellow townspeople were taken captive and the people wanted to kill him and he wanted to die. The Bible says he encouraged himself in the Lord. One of the best things for our husbands is to sit together and talk about all the things the Lord has accomplished through them, remember the good times, the lives changed, the blessings He has given us. Just naming the blessings of the current day can help lift the spirits even a little.

I read this out loud to my mom and my six-year-old piped up ‘Only Satan wants you to believe you’re a failure but God made you special,’ I think that pretty much sums it up.”

These ladies have good comments and I love to get other perspectives from ladies who have served for different lengths of time in ministry.  For yourself, allow the Holy Spirit to guide you when you have the discernment to see that your husband really needs encouragement. Make sure that you’re sensitive to his sensitivities (in words, things you do, and etc.) and as the Lord leads you, encourage him to keep serving the Lord.

If you have some other ideas, thoughts, or advice on how to encourage your husband when he feels like a failure please leave them in the comments!

 

God’s Missing Children: 3 Things Ministry People Can Do for Them

I stood staring tonight at the Red Plum ad, a photo had caught my attention of a red-headed young man, 18 years old. He has a beautiful straight smile and looked to be in great health. He has been missing since August of 2013 and in that moment I prayed for him. It struck me as odd that a young man would be missing, as most times the pictures are of little girls or young women, baby boys or toddlers, not teenage young men.

Then my mind wandered on down another trail. What if God wrote up a missing person’s report for all of His children that had gone missing?

God's Missing Children

The predators have taken many of God’s children through many lies and deceits. Other children who did not wish to be found simply disappeared from church and their families, with a heart set on pursuing their own desires. How many of them are in bondage, slaves to the sin of this world, voluntarily or involuntarily? How many of them are wishing for someone to find them again so they can return home?

Do any of God’s children wish to never be found again? How long have they shut out the Father’s cries for their return to Him?

Have others given up hope? What about the parents of those children? or the families and church families that have suffered heartaches through the years knowing their loved one was missing? What do they pray for and sincerely desire?

What does God the Father desire for His missing children?

For their return… the kind of return that reunites and creates a healed bond in fellowship and love. A renewed walk with God that will never cause them to go missing again.

God’s Search Efforts

Luke chapter 15 is the perfect chapter in the Bible that explains God’s different tactics. Verses 1-7 explain the parable of the lost sheep. The shepherd went out to find the lost lamb when he discovered that ninety-nine had returned to the fold and he did not. When he found him, he rejoiced and asked others to rejoice with him because what was lost was now found.

Verses 8-10 tell the story of the woman who had lost one piece of silver and searches her entire home in desperation looking for it. When she discovers it again, she also asks those around her to rejoice that what was lost had been found.

Verses 11-32 tell the familiar story of the prodigal son, who asked for his inheritance and walked away from his father. In his time of riotous living he was lost, but at the most humbling of experiences while found in the pig pen (a vile animal to Jewish people) he comes to himself, and returns to a father waiting with open arms.

The common thread in each of these parables is that the lost possession/person was not really lost to God the Father. The first two had a similar endings where the sheep and coin were searched for. In the prodigal son’s story, the father allowed him to go and did not look for him but instead waited in faith for his return. I think this speaks of how God’s ways of dealing with His missing children are not always the same. Sometimes the missing children will know God is looking for them because the Holy Spirit has gone out to find them, speaking to their hearts in even their sinful situations time and time again, “You’re out here all alone, come home with me.” Other times, the foundation of Biblical knowledge will hit them in the time where they are most humbled, and they will remember the things they have been taught in that moment and make a choice to repent and turn back to the Father. The result, no matter how the Father works in the situations is that the return is to be a joyful event.

How God’s Missing Children Effects Ministry People

In ministry watching God’s children go missing hurts every time. Every saved person that is part of a church family leaves a hole, like a missing puzzle piece, that makes the local church body incomplete. There have been times that in being able to perceive what will likely happen in people’s lives, you can easily become angry at them (like the prodigal son’s brother) for running off and mocking the righteous lifestyle that you are trying to live. Or you become angry at God like Jonah, for giving them another chance when it seems like they have wasted so many resources, time, and relationships. But like God said to Jonah, “Doest thou well to be angry?” (Jonah 4:4 and 4:9). No, we have to keep things in perspective.

Things We Can Do for God’s Missing Children

  • Pray for God’s missing children to return and be restored and pray for yourself not be tempted. Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Galatians 6:10
  • Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s leading when He may prompt you to go out looking for God’s missing child. I think sometimes that is one of the basis for having a visitation program, to check on those who have seemed to wander away from the fold. There are other ways in which God may prompt you, and I pray you will follow that leading, no matter how inconvenient or uncomfortable it may be.
  • Rejoice in their return. Many times we hesitate when someone walks through the church doors that we have not seen in a long time especially when we were there to give them counsel and they still did what they wanted or we were there when they were heartbroken needing help and they still remained. We wait in our own way to protect ourselves from what may be a “short-term turn-around.” Deal with them like God does, even if it is short-term, tell them you are glad to see them back and you have prayed for them. Treat them the way you would want to be treated if it was you.

I am thankful that when in my life I was the missing person that God never gave up on me! I  hope you can remember the ways God has done the same in your life and use those experiences to love God’s missing children.