*if they are following the leadership they are Biblically asked to follow. (They may not wholeheartedly agree with their leadership but they’re following peacefully in faith). Commend her for being obedient instead of being upset. Pray for her, she may not be able to tell you.

*the amount of spiritual attacks they have faced while trying to do right, in the last day, week, month, year. It may be adding up.

*their heart is well-meaning even if they are ignorant on the things they are trying to do or help with or maybe the sins they commit. Young Christians and young people need grace and someone faithful to teach them.

*how care-taking may be playing a toll on their heart and mind. Mamas and women taking care of parents or special needs children don’t need more burdens from your opinions.

*their past or present and how stress taxes their heart from the trauma of dealing with whatever it was or is in their life. Sometimes the past haunts your present and sometimes the present can oppress people’s spirits because they may struggle with looking up at God rather than their burdens.

*that there may be hidden abuse in their life and they’re trying to make everything appear normal but they’re under the strain of doing things however the people in their life are wanting them to do it. In Christian circles some would not even know their sister-in-Christ is pasting a smile on her face because she doesn’t want you to know things aren’t 100% beautiful in her home.

*the silent lies Satan is whispering to them when they are alone. Lies from Satan are divisive and always trying to cause confusion and distraction from God.

*the temptations they are facing and how they may already be frustrated with themselves already for failing. Speak the truth in love when it’s needed, but don’t over preach/teach to people when they’re already beating themselves up.

*they feel a calling or God impressing them to do something and they are worried already that it will be a drastic change in their life and people will be critical of them. Big steps of obedience need encouragement. It’s God’s job to help people go and do what He wants.

We can only see so much into the lives of those around us. Use the Holy Spirit to give you discernment on how to speak and encourage people because you don’t know the situation behind a person’s smile, frown, or tears.

Proverbs 25:11, ” A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”