Christmas Character Series: Contentment

Christmas Character - Contentment

The idea of Christmas can set some people up for a huge craving for more stuff. We fill our wish lists with tons of items, we hope for the latest and greatest. Receiving can become the object of our desire to fulfill the wants we have. This is called covetousness. The want for more, when God has given us plenty.

Contentment is, “realizing that God has provided everything I need for my present happiness.”*

The opposite of contentment is covetousness.*

What Covetousness Is

We really cannot say that we are content when in our hearts we “want, want, want.” How many of us cry to God for our heart’s desires and they do not come true after praying, so we turn around and try to figure out our own way of obtaining the “prize.” God calls our covetousness lust.

James 4:3 says, “Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.

We assume many times that we have gained God’s favor when we get what we want because Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.”

In the Old Testament the children of Israel desired to have meat in the wilderness and cried for it continually until God gave them the desires of their heart… God sent more quail than what they knew to do with. The Bible says that while the flesh was between their teeth He let them have what they wanted. They began to be sick. Their desires backfired.

Numbers 11: 33, 34 And while the flesh was yet between their teeth, ere it was chewed, the wrath of the Lord was kindled against the people, and the Lord smote the people with a very great plague.  And he called the name of that place Kibroth-hattaavah: because there they buried the people that lusted.

Also in the Old Testament we can think of Achan, David, Samson, and Amnon. All men with a covetous nature that brought them great heartache and problems in their lives.

The true meaning of Christmas is diluted because of rampant covetousness and forsaken contentment. If we say that God is truly all we need, then why do we flock to the stores, or feel despair when we did not get what we wanted? Does our lack of godliness reveal our discontentment?

What Contentment Is

But godliness with contentment is great gain. I Timothy 6:6

According to this verse godliness with contentment is key. Pursuing godliness should make us happy with what we have, resting in God’s omniscient ability to provide all we need and give us more than we deserve. The benefit of being content while being godly is that you have great gain.

God’s reward system is ironic in a way… The void of covetous discontentment will never be filled. People that seek for  gain in a material or positional sense, are losing now and in eternity. God’s children who with a righteous heart, lose their desire for the worldly, are blessed both physically, spiritually, and mentally for now on earth and in eternity.

Be content with Christ for Christmas! True godliness will exalt Christ during the holidays we celebrate Him: Christmas Day and Resurrection Sunday.

If contentment is realizing God has given me everything I need to be happy, then I must:

  • Pursue godliness. View the tiny baby in the manger scene as who He is today, the Son of God sitting on the right hand of the Father and allow Him to mold you to be like Himself. Make it your personal goal to know Him in a deeper way.
  • Forsake worldly desires for temporary material possessions and quench the lusts within my heart.
  • Give of the blessings I already have. Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy; that they do good, that they be rich in good works, ready to distribute, willing to communicate; I Timothy 6:17,18
  • Acknowledge to God and others where the blessings in my life have come from. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. James 1:7
  • Be grateful for any gifts I receive that are more than food and raiment. And having food and raiment let us be therewith content. I Timothy 6:8

Evaluate

For the covetous:

  • Are the desires of your heart pure? or are they for more things?
  • If God were to give you the desire of your heart today, would they backfire like they did for the children of Israel?
  • Are you prepared to face the fact of knowing that your current pursuits may cost you heavenly rewards?
  • Is your covetousness diluting the true meaning of Christmas?

For those that desire to be content:

  • How are you pursuing godliness?
  • Are you truly happy with what God has already provided for you?
  • Would you be willing to give of those things God has provided if He wanted you to?
  • Are you willing to distribute?
  • Are you using scripture to help you quench worldly and lustful desires?
  • When was the last time you acknowledged to God and others about the blessings He has given you?
  • Is your godliness exalting the true meaning of Christmas?

Think about what Luke said when he wrote in Acts, “I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive.

I think within the guidelines of understanding contentment you will see that receiving should not be our object of affection, it should be giving with a heart of generosity. Read here in the Christmas Character Series about Generosity.

**All of the Character definitions come from the Character Qualities Sheet that can be found on SolveFamilyProblems.org.

Christmas Character Series: Generosity

Christmas Character - Generosity

I realize that my Christmas posts are a bit late, but Lord willing, you will be able to apply many of God’s truth not only during this season, but throughout the new year. Our life has been turned upside down by many factors. I wish all of my readers a very Merry Christmas! May you know the reality of Christ this Christmas.

What is it about the holidays that reveals the true nature of people? While some people skip down the sidewalks bundled in their coat and scarves singing and giving to everyone they meet, others just let the evil come out like a Scrooge spewing acid rain on everyone’s snowy parade. We can expect that from the Average Joe, but from believers? How do we prevent sinfulness from tainting one of our most precious of holidays?

Developing our character to be more Christ-like will help us prevent disasters in our homes, among our extended family members, and any other person we come in contact with during the Christmas season. The basis of this Christmas Character Series can be applied year-round.

The first character trait we’re going to look at is Generosity.*

Generosity is “Realizing that all I have belongs to God and using it for his purposes.

It’s antonym is Stinginess.

One of the first thoughts of Christmas that pops into your head may be, “Christmas = Gifts!” Generosity does go hand in hand with gift giving but there is more to it.

It’s amazing how gift-giving can bring you into a creativity mode where you search out the heart of the recipient and lavish them with their heart’s desire… or it can make you switch into dread mode because of the gift comparison trap. You can relish the thought of the excitement on someone’s face when they lift the lid of a box or you can despise the indifference of the recipient’s reaction, leaving you sorry that you gave. Some may love giving so much that they spend more than they should, while the stingy hate to use their money and give sparingly.

Generosity and gift-giving should be demonstrated through a cheerful heart, not grudgingly. God loves a cheerful giver!

Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.  2 Corinthians 9:7

Stinginess carries with it the feeling that you’re holding something of value back, or you are begrudging having to give in the first place. It would be better not to give a gift than for someone to receive a gift with the knowledge that you did not actually want to give it.

God’s Generosity

The Christmas story holds the miraculous love of a Heavenly Father that loved with a heart full of cheerfulness and generosity. He knew our need so He gave His only begotten Son freely.

The angels proclaimed on the night of His birth, “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.” God had a good will toward men to provide in the  most innocent form, a tiny, truly perfect baby. If God had once decided to take His gift of Christ back to heaven, we would be doomed for eternity to pay for our sins in hell. God held nothing back when He gave Christ to the world that did not deserve Him. His love held no disdain for the hard and wicked hearts of man, I believe He smiled as Jesus was ushered forth from His mother’s womb. Her delivery delivered our Deliverance.

God did not choose to whom He would grant His generosity toward. He freely gave it to everyone.  that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.” John 3:15. Whosoever means any and every person. If God was not generous, then He would not have provided eternal life to any person that believed on Jesus Christ.

Expressing Genuine Generosity

Expressing generosity is more than giving a gift. It’s giving with a cheerfulness of heart. It’s giving with love toward anyone God wants you to demonstrate love toward. Generosity does not have to be a high-priced gift…

Generosity reflects an abundance of a spiritual nature. It flows out from a heart that is filled with God and His Word.

Stinginess flows from a heart that is empty of God and His Word. ME stands behind the scenes as a stingy person gives a gift wishing they did not have to give or could keep for themselves. It concerns itself with the item rather than the person to whom it is given.

Generosity is More than Things

Tangible gifts are not always evidence of generosity.

We make the mistake of assuming that all gifts should be of a physical nature. Generosity also gives the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22). It gives sometimes out of poverty instead of abundance. Generosity may be self-sacrificing in order for someone to have a spiritual or physical need met. Generosity freely gives the same gift that God gave on the very first Christmas, Christ. It gives God’s Word to teach others about salvation. It invests in seeing people come to Christ as well as encouraging fellow believers.

Evaluate:

For the stingy of heart:

  • Is there anything this Christmas season that you’re holding back from giving?
  • Has God been wanting you to give more than you’re willing to give?
  • Is He prompting your heart to make a sacrifice in order to generously show love to someone?

For those that want to be generous:

  • Would you make a commitment to demonstrate generosity in more than a tangible way, but by showing the fruits of the Spirit?
  • Will you give as cheerfully as God did that first Christmas?
  • Who will you share Christ with?
  • How will you reflect God’s generosity to those you meet in the hustle and bustle of shopping, parties, and family functions?

God loves a cheerful giver, so give and give abundantly just like God did on that first Christmas!

The Christmas Character Series will continue with the character traits of Contentment and then Gratefulness. Please join us by signing up on the bottom of the website to receive these posts straight to your inbox!

*All of the Character definitions come from the Character Qualities Sheet that can be found on SolveFamilyProblems.org.

Releasing Yourself from Christmas Expectations

Christmas Expectations

Check out my latest article over at Young Wife’s Guide. It’s about releasing yourself from all of those Christmas expectations. Let’s face it anytime there are holidays, extra time spent with family, and gifts involved, then it involves stress & expectations.

 

What does God expect from us during the holidays? The same thing He expects from us all year long! 

This article will help you:

  1. Keep God the Main Thing
  2. Communicate Effectively
  3. Humbly Live Within Your Means

I hope you will take a few minutes to click over to Young Wife’s Guide and take a read!

May the next days before you enjoy your Christmas festivities be filled with thoughts of the beautiful reality of Christ’s birth!